Sunday, 9 February 2014
Things I wish I could have told my teenage self...
1) You are still pretty young. Even though you think you are at your prime, you're not. There is a lot more to come. So calm down. You don't have to experience it all in a few years.
2) You don't know it all. You are 19 for Gods sake. Wisdom is something that comes with age and experience. Heck, I don't even know it all 5 years on- I'm barely scratching the surface.
3) There will be sh*tty people in life. Ignore them. That's life. No matter how pleasant you are, some people just have it in them to be jerks. Just feel sorry for them instead. They're not God. Don't let them get to you.
4) You probably haven't met the love of your life. Sure, in a dream world, you meet an amazing guy and spend the rest of your life with him. But this is reality. Love is out there, there's no rush. Plus, having fun with your friends and being relaxed is way more attractive to the opposite sex. Your friends will soon get pretty peed off hearing about your messed up relationship woes every other day. Speaking to people, one of the things they regret most in their teens is spending so much time and energy on one person!
5) Grab things. Anything. The chance to travel. Opportunities. Social events. Local events.
6) Learn how to say "no". Don't be a people pleaser. Sure, being kind is extremely important, but sadly, as quoted in point number 3, some people are just... jerks. Some people will sadly use you for your money or just even use you for company. The sooner you start sticking up for yourself, the better.
7) You can't be happy 100% of the time. This isn't human. Take the good with the bad.
8) Don't rely on the internet to keep up with friendships. Unless Geography bridges the gap in communication, never lose touch with "real" meetings, outings, even going for a coffee. Nothing beats real communication.
9) Stop stereotyping people. That person you would NEVER even talk to 'cause they listen to a different type of music to you? They may be the nicest person you've ever met.
10) To have friends, you have to be a friend. It's harder to maintain relationships out of school, but never lose sight of your actions as well as others. Sometimes it can be your fault for friendships disintegrating.
11) Stop putting things off. You want to learn to drive? Do it. You want to go see that film? Go and see it.
12) Stop pussy footing about. If you miss someone, tell them. As young as you are, the years will go pretty fast.
13) Qualifications do matter. Even if your dream job doesn't depend on them, they're nice to fall back on in the future. Again, it's never nice having to redo something you already had the chance to do. Luckily, I have never had to re-do any exams, but seriously. I wasted too much time not starting college after high school! If you want to go straight to work after high school- that's cool. But at least get your general secondary exams over with!
14) Don't worry if you don't know what career you want. It's fine. My tip- think of something you love and go from there. But on the other hand...
15) Don't waste time. And by that, I mean, don't sit at home doing nothing. Even if you do a silly course you will never use in life, chalk it up as experience. Or even some job you don't love. It gets you out there.
16) You don't owe anyone an explanation unless they're a loved one, or you work for them. It's no ones "right" to know every little thing about you. Some people are just nosey.
17) Stop spending so much! You WILL want to get a house one day... enough said.
18) Don't drink so much. I wish I had filled my time with more productive things.
At the end of it all however, it's definitely a learning experience! Everyone has regrets. What would you tell your younger self if you could go back in time?!
Have a brilliant week!